Emotional maturity

Life gives us many opportunities to do the right thing and yet many take the easy road. Some do it school, university, work, at play and even on their partners.  The easy road is to cheat, copy, imitate, steal, connive, and lie in order to achieve their objective.  That may be fine if you are professional agitator working for the government or behinds the scenes then we have the sycophants and parasites who ejaculate before their time.

People simply dont understand that what the difference is between doing what is right, what is the law, what precedents mean and how they are different to the way matters used to be managed and administered. Some take it upon themselves to confuse the two and end up making errors of judgement.  Emotional maturity is a wonderful attribute to have especially if you can put aside ones biases and fears.  It took me a long time to recognise and acknowledge that my biases, strong points of view, high standards, values and morals clashed with others and I would become angry and aggressive when others did not think, feel or behave in the same manner as I.

Only in the Australian Defence Force did I manage to reach those standards and enhanced them with life experiences. Each challenge may appeared like a bat out of hell or a nightmare at first, but with time I learnt to handle all problems with logic, good planning and emotional maturity. However despite all of my experiences, I began to face challenges in the world of work outside the Defence umbrella, coming to grips with the realities of life, that I thought I was prepared for. To my dismay, I found that I would more often than not, be taken unawares and my anxiety levels rose to dizzy heights unknown to me before. In hindsight, difficult as it may have seemed at that time, many of us who left the  Defence Force began to realise that we had become institutionalized and had to learn new coping skills.

I would often find myself clashing with others because I felt that they were cutting corners, not doing the right thing, their standards were different, values opposite to mine and morals went out the door.  All my military values of work ethics and play flew out the window and I had to start anew if I was to survive. I learnt to keep my high standards, value, morals and ethics and try and go with the flow without harming anyone. The odd occasion would rise where an individual was involved and i would dig in my heels to support that person. That is when I would clash with others who used intimidation, threats and even assault to get their way.

My battles with these demons of work are well documented and if I had to do it again, my answer would be in the affirmative. I will not back down from any bastard that is a bully or threatens another by intimidation and use of physical force. However despite all of the above, I have been unjustly been called a bully and that deep down have hurt me when I know that I am not. I guess they found my Achilles heel and realised that I could be hurt.  Now at the age of 66 I am far more confident of myself and dont care one iota what others think of me as long as I  can go on living in relative peace enjoying my hobbies of gardening writing and researching my favourite topics. 

I have written this article in response to my critics who fail to understand that writing articles can attract differences of opinion but should remember that one comments become destructive, my responses will also be equally destructive in nature and thus lose the essence o why an article was written in the first place. Many of those who I have dealt with in the past ave not understood but are emotionally driven by their desire to spar with another in order to win an argument based on misinformation and bullshit that they are being fed.  Hence I took the stance to stop comments being made automatically . Once the issues has been decided then and only then will I allow comments to be automatically allowed.  I honestly dont have the time or patience to answer everybody comments.

Thus I can bid with all honesty, adieu to all those keyboard warriors and sycophants and return to my humble abode of peace and tranquility.  My website is not to be used by others who wish to write destructive comments.  Let them learn like I have to in life and grown with each challenge that comes their way. For their sake, I hope they all reach an age where emotional maturity has infiltrated their still developing brains. I would rather do it my way than return to a keyboard full of malice, hate and iniquity.  Believe I can become so destructive that I would no longer be who I am and the dark side of me takes hold. I have worked far too hard to become who I am today.

As always, apologies to purists for my poor grammar and savagery of the English language. I wish you all well and hope that this article does not cause ambiguity in the minds of those who read it.

Peter Adamis is a Journalist/Social Media Commentator and writer. He is a retired Australian military serviceman and an Industry organisational & Occupational (OHS) & Training Consultant whose interests are within the parameters of domestic and international political spectrum.  He is an avid blogger and contributes to domestic and international community news media outlets as well as to local and Ethnic News.  He holds a Bachelor   of Adult Learning & Development (Monash), Grad Dip Occupational Health & Safety, (Monash), Dip. Training & Assessment, Dip Public Administration, and Dip Frontline Management. Contact via Email: [email protected]


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